Do you ever dwell on what you think you lack?
Not long ago, I was in San Angelo, Texas, getting ready to speak to a group of about 350 kids and parents at Lackey Livestock’s Training Day. I was excited to share some of my story while encouraging the attendees to be brave and share theirs. The theme was YOUR Story with an emphasis on “our” – the idea that “your story is our story” because our collective story has power to change the world and make an impact.
I couldn’t have loved this theme more. It’s why I do what I do. I spent hours trying to think through my approach. The more time I spent thinking about it, the more I found myself focusing on what I felt like I didn’t have.
- I wasn’t fun enough.
- I wasn’t motivational enough.
- I wasn’t prepared enough.
- I wasn’t smart enough.
- Even my outfit wasn’t cool enough.
Shift Your Focus
I tried to shift my focus to what I knew to be true. At the core it’s simple - I love being able to connect with people – and in this case, families who share the same passions as mine. I knew this door was opened for a reason. I had to let go of my insecurities and trust any mistake I might make would be forgiven because I was going to be surrounded by good people.
I think that’s what I appreciate most about the gift of gratitude. Gratitude is not just a response to our circumstances – it’s an attitude we’re called to develop. Gratitude isn’t a gift – it’s something we are called to work on and grow.
Once I shifted my mind from focusing on what I lacked to being grateful for the opportunity before me, everything changed. I walked up to the stage with confidence, trusting God with everything I felt I lacked in that moment, and I spoke from the heart.
Be A Little More Vulnerable
Not only did I share my story, but I weaved in stories I’ve helped tell over the years. I shared how those stories helped open my eyes, change my perspective and most importantly, grow me.
At the end of my time on stage, I shared a little from my story about Maddison Caldwell. I knew it was risky because my audience was a mix of ages. I carefully talked about mental health – the reality that life isn’t easy, and we shouldn’t assume so much about other people.
I shared that Maddison had reached out to me recently to let me know she met a farmer at a conference who shared he was at a breaking point in his life. Suicide felt like his only option. But at just the right time, he ran across this story, which led him to Maddison’s story. Because of those stories, he stopped what he was about to do and chose to keep fighting in life. He told her he didn’t want his family to suffer like Maddison’s did.
When she told me that over a text, I didn’t even know how to respond. I broke down in tears. I still get emotional every time I think about Maddison’s encounter with the farmer. A life was saved because someone chose to be honest and vulnerable about their struggles.
There is Power in Your Experience
When I got done speaking that day in San Angelo, conversation after conversation confirmed that when we let go of our insecurities, incredible things can happen. I know it’s not always easy to share our stories, but there’s power in our vulnerability and honesty as humans.
As the holiday season approaches, I’m encouraged to not only share stories with my loved ones and friends, but to also truly listen and help people open up about theirs. This year hasn’t been an easy one for many people, but there’s great power in those stories of struggle – much more than our stories of “wins” if we’re being honest.
How can you stop focusing on your insecurities and let your story help someone else?
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